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Friendship is built on trust, and takes time to grow and develop. What better context for this kind of friendship to grow than in your marriage. Friendship is intimate sharing; a place where you can talk about feelings and hurts and hopes, with honesty, transparency, and loyalty. Friendship, like a good marriage, grows over time. If you and your spouse don't share this kind of friendship, don't wait for the other to reach out. Take the initial step and see how he/she responds.

Teach your spouse how to be your best friend:

Assign top priority to your friendship.
Nothing gets in the way of our doing what is most important to us. If you really want to be friends with your spouse, make time for it. It will be time well spent. One of the hindrances to spending time with your spouse may be your kids. They demand time, but remember that you were husband and wife before you were dad and mom. Make each other the priority of the family. Besides, you teach your children a valuable lesson by showing them that mom and dad are in love with each other.

Cultivate transparency in your relationship.
Honesty, with your self and each other, makes you a better friend. First, honor God who made you the person you are. Discover the freedom that comes with being who you are. Risk being the "same person" at work and at home, in your dealings with friends and strangers.

Dare to risk talking about your affection.
Make, and use, a batch of little cards that say, "I love you because…." Fill in the blank and put them in lunch boxes for your kids, in jacket pockets for your spouse, in letters to dear friends. Your spouse, especially, wants to know he/she is loved. It's a way of looking at your marriage in a fresh way, and sharing the discovery.

Learn the language of love.
Each person needs to learn how to say "I love you," not only in those three little words but through actions of respect. Do you show your spouse that you love him/her with their favorite meal, a bouquet of flowers, a small gift, remembering to do an errand, doing a chore without being asked? Keep your eyes open for common, everyday events that give you the chance to express your love.

Give your spouse freedom.
Don't let your unforgiveness or possessiveness control your spouse. Give them room to explore their potential, learn from their mistakes, and have some personal private time that is totally their own. Accept your spouse - unconditionally - and encourage him/her to be the person God created in them. And, as the seasons of your lives change, notice and make adjustment for the variations in your friendship.

Remember that a friendship that is tended, nurtured, and rooted in the Lord will endure. And being your spouse's friend will also enable your marriage to endure.

Hello Mother, How are you doing. I pray that your spirits are high and lifted up. I am writing you once again, with just a few words to say that you are appreciated as a mother. I recognize and honor you for all that you have done to nurture, love and keep your family. May God continue to give you strength and understanding, that you may know that " You can do all things through Christ who strengthens you ". I pray that he gives you patience, kindness, gentleness, and discernment. May the words that you speak build up and not tear down, bring life and not destruction. May you find fulfillment, contentment and joy as a mother, while never losing sight of the woman you are IN CHRIST.

Did you know …………. that MOTHER'S DAY has become the most popular day of the year to dine out.

Telephone lines record their highest traffic, as sons, daughters and husbands everywhere take advantage of this day to honor and to express appreciation for their mothers, wives, grand mothers, sisters, aunts………

IN FACT, mother's day is so special that in May, 1913 the House of Representatives unanimously adopted a resolution requesting the President, his Cabinet, members of Congress, and all officials of the federal government to wear a white carnation on Mother's Day.

Then …………. on May 8, 1914 President Woodrow Wilson signed a Joint Resolution designating the second Sunday in May as Mother's Day. The U.S. flag is to be displayed on government buildings. And you didn't think you were special!!!

M - Magnify The Lord
O - Overseer of The Household
T - Thankworthy (worthy of approval, credit and praise)
H - Having Humility
E - Effectual (producing or capable of producing the desired effect)
R - Reverend (worthy of deep respect and love)

Finally, may Proverbs 31 be written all over you life!!!!

A United States Marine was attending some college
courses between assignments. He had completed missions
in Iraq and Afghanistan.

One of the courses had a professor who was an avowed
atheist and a member of the ACLU. One day the
professor shocked the class when he came in. He looked
to the ceiling and flatly stated, 'God, if you are
real, then I want you to knock me off this platform.
I'll give you exactly 15 minutes.' The lecture room
fell silent. You could hear a pin drop. Ten minutes
went by and the professor proclaimed, 'Here I am God.
I'm still waiting.'

It got down to the last couple of minutes when the
Marine got out of his chair, went up to the professor,
and cold-cocked him; knocking him off the platform.
The professor was out cold. The Marine went back to
his seat and sat there, silently. The other students
were shocked and stunned and sat there looking on in
silence. 

The professor eventually came to, noticeably shaken,
looked at the Marine and asked, 'What the heck is the
matter with you? Why did you do that?' The Marine
calmly replied, 'God was too busy today protecting
America's soldiers who are protecting your right to
say stupid stuff and act like an idiot. So, He sent me.'